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There are so many milestones we reach throughout the course of our lives.  Once you become a parent you will begin to realize just how many milestones there are that you don’t even remember from your very own youth.  You will be a witness to so many “firsts” through your child that it will be hard to keep track of them all. This got me thinking about “Mommy Milestones.”  A milestone is defined as a “significant point in development,” and because children grow so quickly from infancy to toddlers these regular milestones will become so apparent.  All the top things like their first words, first steps, first birthday, etc. will be very exciting.  But, I think “Mommy Milestones” are a little different and exciting in a different way, in a sense of accomplishment that you are actually a “good mom.”  You will start to have these startling moments where you sit back and can’t believe you just did this, or got through that, or that actually just happen?

So, here are the top 15 “Mommy Milestones” I’ve come up with from CONCEPTION TO TODDLERVILLE:

1) GETTING PREGNANT!!!!  Any woman planning on having a baby can tell how wonderful it is to pee on that little stick and have it come out POSITIVE!!!  As a female I think its safe to say that we feel this is a part of our role, our God given right to be able to grow a baby inside of us.  Whether it takes you a short, long, or ‘somewhere in between there’ time to get pregnant, it’s truly a moment of pure bliss that you won’t ever forget! pregnant_clipart

2) GIVING BIRTH.  Being preggers can be very exciting and exhausting time of your life.  But that is nothing compared to the craziness of giving birth!  Everyone has a different experience when it comes to labor.  However, fear not!  The most painful experience of your entire life is entirely worth it because you are rewarded with the most beautiful baby you will ever meet! You gave birth FROM YOUR VERY OWN BODY to this little blessing.   YES, YOU ARE AWESOME!!

3) NURSING YOUR CHILD (errr, successfully).  I was looking forward to being able to breastfeed, another God-given right, right??  Well yes, in a manner of speaking.  My daughter was not easy to nurse and we had many problems along the way and then just as we finally got into the swing of it around six weeks, I had to give it up due to her acid reflux.  Oh well, at least I gave it my best effort.  I was still very hard on myself as we were trying to nurse.  Some women have no issues and swear by it, others never try, some stop due to the many different circumstances.  But, if you are successful in doing this, I can tell you its amazing feeling to be able to feed your own child from just purely and simply, you.

4) Being able to care for your child on YOUR own for the first time.  Sounds strange right?  So much preparation goes into planning for the baby, but what about when they are actually there?  At the hospital you have so much help, then at home I had the help of my Mom and my husband for almost two weeks on just about a daily basis.  Then the reality kicks in on the day it’s just you and your baby for the first time!!!  It’s a little scary at first, but you manage to do it.  Plus you feel pretty cool (and relieved) when your husband gets home and you tell him, that’s right your are a Mom and yes you kicked ass taking care of your child by yourself, ALL DAY!

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5) Leaving your baby alone successfully with someone else for more than a few hours.  I can still remember the first time I had to leave my daughter alone with my Mom for about 8 hours.  Of course I completely trusted my mom, but as I drove away from Juliette I felt an overwhelming ache, sadness, and worry for a while.  Then once I got to my destination I was so overwhelmed with people asking me for photos of her, how she was, how I was, etc. that the ache and sadness subsided mostly, but I still had worry.  It also felt a little freeing and somewhat normal again to be on my own, just me.  I now know the worry will probably never fully go away, but it does get better and a little easier with time.

6) Getting your baby to sleep through the night.  Any mom will tell you that this is in one word, wait for it…LEGENDARY!  (HIMYM fans will get that legendary reference) Right around 8 weeks old my daughter starting doing this and I can’t even tell you what the magic key was, but whatever we were doing with her was working!!! You will hear that Hallelujah song literally ring through your head, so much that you will have to make sure you keep doing what we are doing.  Of course, any mother will also tell you that just because they slept through the night, it does NOT mean you will.  You will wake up, stare at the monitor, listen to the monitor, turn it up, make sure its working, wander into their room, feel their chest, watch them, pace the halls, make sure they have enough blankets, are in the proper position, tiptoe to the bathroom, not to mention check the time about 40 more times, etc. This also gets easier with time.

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7) Losing the baby weight.  For me, nursing really helped with this one, plus honestly it truly is hard to find time to eat for quite a while.  Sometimes you just shovel into your mouth what you can between feedings.  Happily, after bout 4 weeks, I was back in my old jeans.  I was pretty proud of having shed almost all the pounds because it felt awesome.  I think the last few were gone after about 10 more weeks.  This is not to say your body will look exactly the same after, you will have stretch marks and that line down your stomach will fade, but your body will never truly be the same.  It will be a little stretched out in different places.  It’s all worth it though as you almost feel a sense of accomplishment like who cares, they are almost like battle scars and I’m ok with that. fat-woman-2-clipart (1) 8) The pride of their Independence (seeing them do things on their own for the first time like eating, drinking, walking, crawling, talking, etc.)  These are milestones for both baby and parents.  It’s fun to watch them try to become mobile and the strange things they will do to get there.  You’ll feel like you are living with a little drunken munchkin for a while.  You’ll have many proud mommy and daddy moments here.  Is the saying true that it’s all over once they start to crawl or walk?  Well its over for a little while, but once they become steady and you childproof even more so than you ever thought was necessary or possible, it gets easier.  Talking is also quite humorous at first, but when you start hearing real words, its just adorable.  Eating and drinking can be quite the scene too as you’ll learn that even your cell phone apparently tastes delicious, so does that 2-week-old Cheerio from under the couch you missed while cleaning…

9) Saying Mama!  Admit it, you know you want to hear “Mama” before “Dada.”  I still stand by the fact that Juliette’s first words were not “Dada” but merely “DAAAAAAA” followed barely by another “daiiii.”  Anyway, whether its said first or not, it’s amazing to hear when they actually look at you, know who you are, and say it out loud, be prepared to grab the tissues!

10) You become the ultimate healer.  Who still doesn’t want their mom around when they are sick?  I know I do!  There’s something about them that just makes you feel better.  Guess what?  You will have the same power over your child; a mother’s nurturing is the ultimate gift to their child.  It’s incredible that by just comforting them and knowing what to do when they aren’t well makes you the Dali Lama!  Caring for them in this state makes you realize how much they truly need you, that you are that person who makes it all better. Healing Heart-256x256 11) Signing up your child for their first independent class.  My daughter’s first ‘non-Mommy and Me’ class was her dance class the started in the fall of 2013.  Let me tell you that YOU will be more nervous; YOU will be “that mom” in class that becomes the worrywart.  However, my fears subsided when I realized how well Juliette did when that door shut, and that there were, in fact…NO TEARS!  A bit of tears came a few weeks later on for her, but she got over it and now she absolutely LOVES her dance class, her teachers, the students, and looks forward to every Tuesday!  I catch her doing moves all over the house too, which is thoroughly adorable.  They learn, you learn, it’s a wonderful all-around learning experience.  Plus, it gets them used to taking direction from other adults besides their parents and social interaction with other little ones. IMG_0524

12) Signing up your child for school.  Preschool was a hard word for me to say.  I stay at home with my daughter, so it was probably a little harder to let go, as Juliette is like my little sidekick all day, everyday.  But, whether you are a working mom or a stay-at-home one, I think this is a BIG milestone and it is never easy.  Juliette will start two half days of preschool this coming fall and that was a big moment for her, her Daddy and I.  My little girl is growing up, which is a very bittersweet pill to swallow. school  

13) Getting them off the Pacifier.  Juliette was very attached to her beloved “paci” as it really did get her through lots of tough times, but they say around 18 months old its time to give it up.  Well the timeline was near and I first tried poking holes, but Juliette realized what I did right away and just tried making the holes bigger by poking at them, so now she had a new and very cool paci toy to pick at.  Then I tried cutting off the top of it, as apparently most babies realize the sucking sensation is gone and give up, well my daughter is NOT that easy.  She realized what I did took it out of her mouth, gave it a maddening stare and then looked at me with a huge pout and proceeded to throw the paci across the room in effigy (almost hitting my head and the wall).  Hmmm, ok maybe a little too soon??  At that point I realized maybe it was too early for this, so about a month later I tried to take it away cold turkey, which led to various battles, lots of crying to sleep, and some nights where she would get so worked up into a tantrum that she would end up vomiting.  Ok, still too early!  As the months went on I starting putting away the pacifiers hanging around the house and in my bags, therefore keeping them out of sight and out of mind…and ONLY giving them to her at nap/bedtime if needed.  This part worked well, but I still wanted to get her off it for dental reasons and for the fact that I hate seeing preschoolers walking around with a pacifier in their mouth.  It’s a comfort thing but luckily Juliette still had another comfort things, her favorite blanket, a.k.a. “binks” which she could NEVER sleep without.  Then on one magical and splendid summer night right around 22 months old she didn’t ask for it, so I didn’t give it to her and she went happily to bed.  I was thrilled and hoped it would continue.  The next night she asked for it as my husband and I were leaving the room and we just ignored it.  She asked again a few times and I would just say something else to distract her, or sing her a favorite song, or give her a little stuffed animal to sleep with.  There was a little crying in some of the nights following, but nothing too major.  After this we never looked back, and said goodbye to the PACI!!!  I was so ecstatic I might even have proceeded to do a little “BYE-BYE-BYE” dance on my way out of the room, well ok not every night.

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14) Feeling that special bond.  You’ll see once you become a parent that ‘that special bond’ you always hear about doesn’t always happen right away.  Maybe for some it does.  Of course you love them unconditionally right away, that goes without saying.  But as a first time mom, I remember feeling so much worry and emotion at the same time and that can take you over.  You just want to make sure you are doing all the right things for your new baby.  But as the days, weeks, months, years etc. go on you will have those special moments that make everything completely worth it.   You will fall more and more in love with your child as time goes on.  I can still remember the first time Juliette really smiled at me, genuinely laughed at something I did the first time, the first time she ran over to me to just give me a hug, the first time she reached out to hold my hand; the first time she said “I love you.”  There are so many special things that will make you feel that bond as they grow; it’s truly a wonderful and amazing thing.

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15) Potty training success!!!!  This brings me to my very last thing, as it the most recent thing we are trying our best to conquer.  I’m learning there is no real magic spell to get your child to start peeing in the potty.  There are many methods and like most things as a first time parent, you try them all through trial and error.  Different methods work for different children and at all different ages too.  Potty training takes a LOT of patience, routine, perseverance, cleaning products, and happy dances…oh and in my daughter’s case- STICKERS!!  After trying various methods, the one that worked was an intense 15-minute rotation onto the potty and using pull-ups for a few weeks straight and then she finally started to get it.  Something started to click and we would all get super excited and reward her with a sticker immediately after, and now she knew what was up.  We’ve now worked up to about every 30 minutes or so, and sometimes she even tells me when she has to.  We still miss some here and there, still haven’t had any poop in that potty yet, and we have tried underwear a few times which didn’t go so well.  So my hope is that in a few more months is that she will be fully potty-trained…fingers crossed!!!  Again it takes a lot of patience, just like most things in parenting do.

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Parenthood is a very long and winding road, but it is filled with many memorable milestones, so be sure to appreciate them as the years go by.  Any other Mommy Milestones you can think of for this stage that I might have missed?  Or any extra special ones we might have to look forward to?  Leave it in the comments, for now happy parenting!!!   ~J

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What did I eat for those two very strict months that I followed this diet?  I basically ate to live, not lived to eat!  In the South Beach Diet book there is an exact list of “Foods to Enjoy” and “Foods to Avoid” for each phase and this really helps.  I used to copy that list and put it in my purse to look through as I was grocery shopping.  Plus they have meal plans you can follow if you need the extra help each day.  On top of that, they have an awesome amount of amazing recipes to follow.  The book makes everything extremely simple for you, and it also gives you perspective from other people’s success stories.  There are many south beach books out there now, my Mom has the most updated version and the pocketbook version, I have the original version and the website is also very helpful too.  Not to mention the many other websites and recipes out there that are South Beach friendly.

I am not going to go through everyday of what I ate on my diet because this would be WAY too long.  But, I will give you my favorite things I ate, the food switches I made, tips, my go-to snacks, and meal plan examples for each phase, including the “maintenance phase” (Phase 3), which I currently try to follow.  Overall I learned that dieting is really not eating less, it’s just eating the right things, which eventually lets you eat SOME of the wrong things…in moderation, that is!

The Switches (to help cut the calories, carbs and fat):

-Sugar for sugar substitute

-Regular flour for whole flour or whole-wheat pastry flour

-Butter for Smart Balance

-eggs for egg whites

-regular mayo for some type of light mayo (I like the Olive Oil mayo by Hellman’s)

-honey mustard to Dijon mustard

-regular bread crumbs to whole wheat bread crumbs

-Regular chocolate and hard candy for sugar free chocolates and sugar free hard candy

-Peanut butter for natural peanut butter (I like Skippy Natural)

-Regular maple syrup for sugar free maple syrup

-Second helpings at meals to just adding more vegetables that help fill you up so you don’t need that second helping

-Bread/wraps to make a sandwich for pieces of lettuce

-Regular cooking spray for olive oil cooking spray

-Vegetable and/or Canola Oil to Olive Oil

-Ketchup in recipes to tomato paste in recipes

-Sugary cereals to Fiber One Original with berries

-Instant Maple brown sugar oatmeal to Old Fashioned Rolled Oats with fruit or sugar free jam or sugar free syrup

-Regular pancake mix for whole-wheat flour and oatmeal homemade pancake mix

-Bacon for turkey or Canadian bacon

-White bread to wheat bread

-Potato Chips to baked Sweet Potato chips

-Fries to Sweet Potato fries

-Granola bars to South Beach Diet Snack bars (the whipped Peanut butter ones are my favorite) or a handful of nuts (pecans, walnuts or almonds…just a small amount really can fill you up)

Favorite Snacks:

-Fruit, especially berries

-half of an Avocado

-String cheese

-A few slices of a reduced fat cheese

-A handful of nuts

-Sweet potato salt and vinegar chips

-Russell Stover sugar free coconut crème chocolates

-Celery stuffed with peanut butter or laughing cow cheese

-Humus with veggies for dipping

-Hard-boiled egg

-fruit smoothies (made with nonfat Greek or regular yogurt)

-kale chips (if you can’t find them at the store, you can always make your own)

-South Beach Mocha Frappe

-South Beach Chilled Chai Tea Latte

-Sugar free hot chocolate with fat free RediWhip

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Here are some meal plan examples:

Phase 1:

Breakfast:

-6 oz. vegetable juice cocktail (I like V8 low sodium)

-Egg white omelet with half a slice of low salt 2% American cheese

-1-2 slices turkey bacon

-decaffeinated tea with few drops of skim milk and a teaspoon of sugar substitute

(coffee is allowed as well, either regular or decaf, I just don’t like coffee)

Midmorning snack:

-mozzarella string cheese (low moisture, part skim)

Lunch:

-1 Turkey rollup (rollups are a large piece of romaine or Boston Bibb lettuce with light mayo, I like the South Beach cilantro mayo, it is delicious, a slice of turkey topped with scallions and either roasted red peppers or fresh red peppers)

-2 Ham rollups (made the same way as the turkey roll-ups except with boiled ham cold cut)

-Sugar free Jell-O with a tablespoon of fat free whipped cream

Midafternoon snack:

-celery stuffed with 1 wedge of Laughing Cow Light cheese

Dinner:

-Tossed salad (mixed greens, cucumbers, green peppers, tomatoes) with Balsamic Vinegar dressing (their recipe is easy and yummy, but you can always just use oil and vinegar or buy a fat free low sugar oil and vinegar based dressing)

-Surprise South Beach Mashed “Potatoes” (not really potatoes, instead steamed cauliflower with half and half and smart balance and a few other ingredients blended together)

-spinach stuffed mushrooms

-Marinated London Broil (a south beach marinade with yummy spices)

Dessert:

Peanut Butter non-flour cookies (you can have 1 or 2, my favorite cookie on this diet and one of my husband’s favorite cookies now too, http://www.kalynskitchen.com/2007/10/recipe-for-flourless-sugar-free-peanut.html)

*What did I drink besides that tomato juice and tea in the morning???  WATER!!!  And lots of it, and sometimes I threw in some lemon too.  NO SODA, FRUIT JUICE, OR ALCOHOL ON THIS PHASE!!!*

Phase 2:

Breakfast:

-6 oz. vegetable juice cocktail

-1 poached egg

-1 slice Canadian bacon

-half a whole wheat English muffin

-regular or decaf tea with skim milk and sugar substitute

Midmorning snack: (if needed, once Phase 2 kicks in you will find yourself not always needing to snack as much)

-3-4 slices of an apple with a tablespoon of natural peanut butter

Lunch:

-South Beach Greek Salad

-1/4 cup of blueberries or raspberries

Midafternoon snack: (I found that I did still need the midafternoon snack, but some people say they don’t always need it)

-4 oz. nonfat sugar free Greek yogurt with a few tablespoons of chopped nuts and a dash of sugar substitute

Dinner:

Easy Chicken in Wine Sauce

Italian Style Spaghetti Squash

Steamed Broccoli

Dessert:

-Chocolate Dipped Strawberries

Phase 3

Breakfast:

-Wheat flour & Oatmeal blueberry pancakes with Sugar free Syrup and more fresh blueberries on top

-6 oz.  vegetable juice cocktail

Midmorning snack: (if needed)

-fruit smoothie (fresh fruit, fat free milk, nonfat plain Greek yogurt, and tablespoon of splenda and/or a splash of orange juice)

Lunch:

-South Beach Gazpacho with a few slices of low fat cheese on the side

-veggies with hummus

Midafternoon snack:

-Sweet Potato Pop-up chips

Dinner:

-Lemon Pepper salmon with dill yogurt dipping sauce

-Spiced Quinoa

-Garden Salad

Dessert:

-1/2 cup of half churned ice cream

Here’s a list of some great websites I used:

-Southbeachdiet.com

-Kaylynskitchen.com

-Theleangreenbean.com

-Skinnytatste.com

-Noshandnourish.com

And there it is!!  Now do I follow this Phase 3 maintenance stage super strictly?  Well, I do follow it, but I make my own alterations to it.  I am pretty strict during the weekdays and splurge a little on the weekends. But what’s wonderful and I now know what I should and shouldn’t be eating, I have much better knowledge about the healthy foods versus the not so healthy foods.  So the things I shouldn’t be eating I eat in moderation, or if I have a day where I didn’t moderate as well, I will go back to mostly Phase 1 for the next day.

I also used to weigh myself daily, now I weigh myself once or twice a week to make sure that I am staying on track and I and happy to write that I have maintained my 30 pound weight loss.  Exercising is a big part of this too, on a good week I exercise 5-6 days and then on a week where I have a lot going on or am just too tired or busy to do it, I make sure that I exercise at least 4 times a week.  Exercising and eating better have just become a part of my life now, a part of my daily routine so much so that I feel badly when I eat too many unhealthy foods or don’t have the time to fit in exercise.  Now that I have lost the weight though, I have some wiggle room, so I try not to be too hard on myself because we all have to a live a little sometimes.

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To sum it up, my first diet (and exercising 5 TO 6 DAYS PER WEEK) got me drop to 32 pounds and to live much a healthier lifestyle!  I now feel like a better person and Mom too both mentally and physically for giving my body, mind, and spirit an overhaul.

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Your body changes as you get older and it especially does after you have a child.  It will never look exactly the same as it once did, but embrace yourself and try do not be too hard on yourself, because all that you have gone through has made you the person you are today.  You can do this diet too, once you are ready to, and if you do, like me you will get some of the confidence back you were missing before.  I have a nice little extra swing in my step, which helps me to keep up even better with the little apple of my eye.  Where do toddlers get their energy from anyway?  Most likely their youth, all that sleep they get, or even food perhaps??  Man, it is a viscous cycle!!

~J

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I know it’s been a while since my last entry.  I blame it on the life of a busy mom, Hurricane Sandy madness, power outages, Juliette getting over a stomach virus and a cold, hosting our first Thanksgiving, starting the Christmas rush, etc…I am sure all you Moms out there can relate, sometimes life just gets in the way.

I was planning on making my next blog all about “The UGLY TRUTH behind Motherhood,” which I did much research on and even had the help of some questions answered from many of you moms out there.  However, in the spirit of the holidays approaching, I’ve come up with a funny little list, which I truly believe to be the truth, and have wanted to write about for some time now, as I think about it OFTEN.  Basically it breaks down to the fact that the life of a baby is just awesome for them, and we should try to live our lives the same way!  Never fear though…The UGLY TRUTH will be coming shortly after the New Year.

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Until then, I have been thinking lately about how the more and more as we get older, being an adult sometimes, well sucks.  There is so much responsibility to being an adult; at times it can be intoxicating.  Isn’t there an age old saying of something like how we all wish we could see the world “through the eyes of a child…” quite ironic isn’t it?  Because all we want when we are younger is to be older, right?

 Well, here is my Top 10 list of why we should all should aspire to be more like our little ones:

 1) THEY GET 10-12 HOURS OF SLEEP EVERY NIGHT! If you are lucky enough to have a baby sleep through the night, (Juliette has done so since about 2 months old thankfully), with the few exceptions of an illness or new teeth waking her up.  In addition to sleeping soundly, they don’t have to get up to relieve themselves in the middle of the night, thanks to their diaper.  They can roll around wherever they want and not fall off the bed.  They have a nice lullaby to fall asleep to, and a pretty twilight turtle that lights up the room.  If they don’t happen to sleep through the night, they get rocked to sleep, sung to sleep, put in a vibrating chair, put into a swing, or practically anything their parents can possibly find until they are finally sleeping!  What’s an easy solution for us adults?  Go to bed earlier!!  Juliette barely makes it to 8:00 p.m. most nights.  As adults, we don’t get nearly enough of sleep as we should per night due to many things, some out of our control, some in our control…but whether it be our jobs, stress, television, trying to get our little one to actually sleep, etc.  Oh how I wish I could get 10-12 hours of sleep like they do!

2) THEY EAT A VERY WELL-BALANCED DIET– From mother’s milk to the most expensive milk that money can buy, formula.  Any parent who has gotten even one of the so-called ‘cheaper’ formulas know how expensive it is.  From there they move onto cereal and lots of pureed fruits and veggies.  My now 16 month-old daughter still has three cups of whole milk a day and quite a bit of water too, (she hasn’t had any fruit juice yet, as it has really no nutritional value in it).  I always make sure she has 3-4 servings of fruit/veggies each day and I don’t let her have too much sugar in her diet.  She always has fruit with her breakfast and no matter what we are having for dinner I always make sure Juliette has a vegetable with it, which intern had led my whole little family to always have a vegetable with every dinner now too…no skimping on that one anymore.  Anyone heard of the baby diet??  I think I might try it!

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3) THEY APPRECIATE THINGS WE NEVER WOULD– We’ve all seen our little tots play with the box rather than the toy.  My daughter is very happy just to “be” and always wakes up in a great mood.  She gets such pleasure from things like our dog barking, waving at others, bananas, applauding at herself when she learns anything new, a song she likes, saying a new word, reading a book, and how can we forget ELMO? As adults, we get too caught up in the nonsense around us to appreciate things like this, but WE ALL should do more of that.

4) THEY NAP!  Does this one really need an explanation?  I miss my siesta days from camp, my almost daily naps as a college student, ahhhh naps are just wonderful…if you ever have time in your adult life to fit one in, do it!!!  You will be very thankful you did, and you will also feel amazing afterward too!  Babies have the right idea, at first they nap constantly, then move onto 3-4 times a day, then onto twice a day, and now Juliette just recently got to one nap a day.  Even though this one long nap is now smack dab in the middle of the day, she needs it and I must admit, I need it too.  This one nap is usually (on average) about 2 hours (sometimes more, sometimes less) and I get soooo much done during those two hours it’s a wonderful thing!  Do I nap during those two hours???  Heck no!  I used to nap when she napped back when she was just a few weeks old but now, no way!  I clean, cook, do laundry, catch up on correspondence…but if I am completely exhausted or just need to kick back I might lie down and read or watch some TV, or on a an extremely rare occasion I might even fall asleep for a small amount of time.  I miss napping!

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5) THEY DRINK LOTS OF MILK– I sort of covered this one in #2, but we all see the “Got Milk” ads just about everywhere.  Plus, there is the wonderful benefits that the vitamins and nutrients in milk give you, like calcium especially.  Additionally, until the age of 2, babies drink whole milk…and from someone who drinks skim milk on a regular basis let me tell you they have the RIGHT idea…have you tasted whole milk lately?  It tastes like cream…yum yummm!!

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6) THEY DON’T HAVE TO CLEAN UP AFTER THEMSELVES IN ANY WHICH WAY– From the time they are born until they are way into those grade schools years, let’s face it- these kids have it good!  They don’t wipe themselves, don’t feed themselves (for a while anyway), don’t bathe themselves, or dress themselves (that comes after a little while too).  NOT A PARENT YET?  You will soon learn a huge part of your everyday it just keeping them and your house looking presentable.  I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve almost tripped over a toy or book on the floor.  Once (if you are ever) done cleaning them up, be sure to keep yourself presentable, I know it’s hard especially at the very beginning to even fit in a shower, but you will learn the best times to do so.

NOTE: My husband gave me the idea for this one…how did I not think of it first on my own?  Leave it to the stay-at-home Mommy who does just about everything for her daughter to get BABY BRAIN (to learn more about this BABY BRAIN craziness see https://juliettesworldblog.wordpress.com/2012/10/10/losing-my-mind-my-balance-and-even-my-shoes-have-i-become-a-mom-or-a-just-klutz/) while trying to come up with a list about her!  Thank you Steve 🙂

7) THEY CAN BURP AND FART IN PUBLIC AND NO ONE CARES!  No ones cares IS RIGHT, its actually cute instead!  How many time have you been out and let one loose and didn’t know what to do?  You could never fart or (god forbid) much less poop your pants and not feel embarrassed.  Burping?  That’s a whole other story; it’s not crazy embarrassing in public as you can always excuse yourself, unless it was too big that is.  But when you are a baby and you burp, Mommy and Daddy are very, very pleased.  Juliette was a very tough burper until about 10 months old, so when she did get those burps out, we had our little mini-celebrations….unfortunately it was usually followed by some lovely looking (and smelling) spit-up, but in her defense, she did have a bad case of acid reflux.

8) THEY DON’T CARE ABOUT THEIR WEIGHT!   They don’t care if they’ve gained weight at all, in fact it is so important that they do during those first few weeks of life, you feel like a failure as a parent if they don’t! The fatter they are, the better and cuter they are.  Juliette was an average sized baby at first, 7 pounds 9 ounces, very long and skinny though.  I always thought I was going to have a hugely chubby baby at first, but little did I know she would get there after a few months.  Now that she is stretching out a bit and losing her cute little chunky baby thighs, I have to admit I am going to miss them!  She is still in the 90th percentile for weight, and does that bother her or me?  Not one bit at all!!  I realize she might fall behind the 90th percentile, but whatever weight she is, I hope she doesn’t worry about it for a very, very, very long time!  I wish we could all take a cue there.  Back when I was an adolescent, I couldn’t gain an ounce if I tried, I was very tall and very thin, (and wish I appreciated that more), but that changed when I hit my late twenties, had two foot surgeries and then got pregnant too.  Having to watch what I eat, and exercise for more than just ‘fun’ wasn’t a great feeling, but hey just another sucky part of being an adult I guess.

9) THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH WALKING AROUND IN THEIR UNDERWEAR!  Onesie anyone?  The cutest thing!  Just a diaper?  Why not?  Even naked is just adorable too!  Some people may love walking around in their skivvies in the privacy of their own home, or perhaps wearing an itty-bitty bathing suit on the beach.  However, I think we can all admit that no matter what size, weight, etc. a baby in with just the tiniest amount of clothing is truly precious.

10) THEY HAVE NO PREJUDICE– Ignorance is truly bliss sometimes, and that is definitely the case with our little ones.  They have no prejudice and are (for a little while anyway) oblivious to the world around them and all the hate there really is too much of out there.  I think we would all be a little better off sometimes if we were the same way, unfortunately, life happens.  Tragedies, sadness, death, and many other experiences could and most likely will affect them, but its important for us, as parents to do the best we can to help them through those difficult times and let them know they are truly loved.  We need to reassure them that no matter what, no natter the color of their skin, or any religious or political view or something they have been through, I believe LOVE does and will truly conquer all.

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So, there it is my list of why being a baby is freakin’ awesome!  (I’m sure if I were a guy writing this I would also include something about breastfeeding, but I am sure we can all use our imagination there…)

Yes, I do realize that most of these things, as they are only babies/toddlers, they don’t care about because they are too young to even fathom any of this, but hey it’s the holidays and thought we could all use a little extra holiday cheer!  Especially in light of the fact that of the absolutely terrible school shooting happened last week in my home state, Connecticut.  I always knew Newtown to be a very safe, quaint, and nice place to live, and my hearts truly go out to those who lost anyone in that shooting.  This is an awful thing for anyone to go through, and not only does it hit home with me because I was a teacher, but also because innocent children and staff were a part of this shooting.  Losing a loved one is always a horrific ordeal, but when that loved one has barely lived yet, and is the apple of your eye (like I know my daughter is), I can’t even imagine going through something like that.  Additionally, I am extremely proud of my fellow educators who stood in front of these children and risked/lost their lives.  I am proud to say I was a teacher too, and will be again one day.

Now, go have some even happier holidays and enjoy that extra glass wine, or spiked egg-nog or pour a little extra peppermint schnapps into your hot chocolate, because if you are a parent, you deserve it!  Hey, even if you aren’t a parent, we all work our butts off on pretty much a daily basis, so enjoy!

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Have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!     ~J

Someone's been good this year :)

Someone’s been good this year 🙂
Juliette’s 2nd Christmas

Got milk???

Ahhh the joy of spending $30 a pop on a tub of formula…did we really have a choice in the matter though?  Actually we didn’t after a rough first 8 weeks with Juliette.  It’s a great debate…formula vs. breastmilk, and I have to admit I believed that breast was best.  My daughter did get breastfed at least for a little while, not as long as I had hoped, but there was reason for that.

Let’s back up a bit here, I believe in a woman’s right to choose in many ways.  Now, I am not going to go out on a limb (like Mr. Bloomberg did) and decide to take away formula from any place, but I will say that choices are there and they are made for a REASON, not just for convenience.  Unto the whole nursing issue, I was so very excited preparing for all of the things motherhood brought upon me, and one of the most important things was my ability to breastfeed (and my bigger cup size too might I add).

When I first started to breastfeed Juliette it was not easy as I had hoped, but I told myself that it was going to be ‘ok,’ I wasn’t expecting it to be.  A nipple-shield helped a lot at first, especially with that precious “liquid-gold” colostrum that comes in those first few days.  Then, as the milk came in, the shields were used less as Juliette latched on much better.  Unfortunately though, this is not where the story ends.  I so wish I was like one of those women who easily popped their baby on their boob and delightfully fed them on each side.  I envied those women!!  This was not the case for me…the first problem was, Juliette never seemed full, and was also quite colic after almost a week at home with us, especially at feeding time.  After one very worried trip to the ER, many pediatrician appointments, a meeting with a lactation consultant, and joining La Leche League, I began to also pump my milk.  They all agreed that, most likely, our somewhat discontented newborn wasn’t getting enough milk or and when she was, she wasn’t getting it fast enough.  Every new mom will learn that all babies lose weight once they come home from the hospital, but she wasn’t gaining any and loosing too much.

I admit that it was frustrating, (not to mention those very, very sore and leaky nipples to boot), and I was quite worried and felt somewhat inadequate.  But, I would not be defeated!!!  So, after her feedings, I would pump, then hydrate, try my best to replenish my insatiable hunger, and by the time this process was done I was left with maybe 15 minutes or perhaps 25 minutes, (if I was lucky), before her next feeding.  So, there I was exhausted, feeding her directly from the breasts, then offered her some from the bottle with pumped milk (if she was still hungry), then burped her (she was a very tough burper), followed by pumping, eating/drinking for myself, and then having barely any time left to do anything for myself, like brush my hair or go to the bathroom.  Still, I was not giving up, I was determined to do this.  By her next doctor’s appointment she seemed to be getting enough now, however she had begun to spit up a lot more and was having an even harder time burping.  On top of that, she still hadn’t gained much, but (AH-HA!) something was working because she hadn’t  lost any weight!  Unfortunately though, due to the gassy, non-burping and constantly spitting up baby Juliette had become after just a few weeks, they suggested changing my diet.  So, I gave up dairy first, which wasn’t too bad.  My husband stocked us up with many new types of food for my diet, after a week though, still no change, so then they suggested to try to soy free diet.  Well, I really feel very badly for anyone who can’t eat soy, because it’s in almost EVERYTHING!!  This diet was hard, but I pressed on and kept at it, sent Steve to the store almost daily to find something to eat that way soy free and filled me up…but still no change, and a lot more crying and spitting up.  Next up, I tried a soy and dairy free diet, this was the hardest one, but I was doing this for the better of my child, so I still didn’t give up!  Much to my chagrin though, no change with Juliette.  She was not so happy at feeding time especially, and the poor thing couldn’t keep anything down.  I went back to my regular diet and just exclusively on the breast and she would cry and cry and cry and not even want to eat.  What was happening?  Was she self-weaning already?  What did she want?  It was so hard to tell!!  Would there ever be a resolution to this?  Will I ever enjoy my new daughter?  Why can’t I just feed her my milk?  Bottle or breast is best?  Why does she cry every time she is nursing?????  So many questions and I NEEDED ANSWERS!!!

Finally, after six long and stressful weeks of this…she was diagnosed with ACID REFLUX, and with the right formula and meds, she was like a new baby!  I couldn’t believe it!!!  Why didn’t we know this before?  Apparently it is VERY common, and my younger sister and mother-in-law even had it when they were babies…who knew?  Finding the right formula and meds wasn’t easy either, and I even kept trying to sneak in my pumped breast-milk too, but every single time I did, she puked and had a sour stomach.  Plus, because as this point I was just pumping, my supply was going down.  So, I finally and unfortunately stopped breastfeeding after 8 weeks of putting my all into it!  It was very sad day for me, and I shed many tears over it, but no one could say I didn’t try, because I did everything I possibly could.  My loving husband was very supportive of the fact that I had to stop, and he was my biggest supporter through all of this.  In conclusion, I did not have a choice but to give up nursing my baby, unless I wanted to make her sick everyday…I think NOT!

I started to enjoy Juliette so much more, and from that moment on there was stress here and there, but nothing so bad that we couldn’t handle it.  Burp cloths, bibs, and wipes became my new best friends, and burping every 2 ounces was much better for my hard to burp baby.  As she became an adorably happy and, might I add, very full baby, who by her third month was in the 95th percentile for weight, and has stayed around that same mark since, we knew we did the right thing for her.

So, trust me, they made formula for a reason, not just for women who chose not to breastfeed (which if you chose that too, I have no judgment there either because breastfeeding, even if it agrees with them, is serious business), but it was also made for those babies who couldn’t be exclusively breastfed.  It was a long road, and once she started solids her acid reflux kept getting better, her spit-ups diminished, and she now loves practically all food.  Skip to the present time…today was her last day of her beloved soy formula, which took us so long to find the right one after those six weeks.  Today it’s all whole milk.  This was a 3-week milk  project, adding more whole milk and less formula every week…and I was quite nervous about it, because of all her problems feeding in the beginning, but I am happy to report that so far, so good!

So, all you new moms hear me out- DO NOT be too hard on yourself, if for whatever the reason, you can not breastfeed, because you do have choices.  I tried my very best, and still do hope to be able to breastfeed (for a longer period of time) with the next child, when that time comes.  But when that day does comes, if it doesn’t work out I am not going to be too hard on myself, because I have a very happy and healthy baby now.  And if you are successful in breastfeeding easily, congratulations to you, I am very jealous!

Got milk?  Yes, we all do, but it comes in many different shapes, forms, sizes, and brands, and yes you do have the right to choose!  Please remember that ladies, your baby’s health and happiness comes first, and don’t be too hard on yourself like I was…it’s unnecessary in the end! J

PS: Any questions about acid reflux, feel free to ask me anytime!  I had a hard time finding enough information out there about it, and while I’m no expert, I can try my best advice to help.